JUST BROWSING THE INTERNET AND FOUND A FEW  TERRIFIC QUOTES

 

“You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.”
~ C. JoyBell C.

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“The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.” ~ Maya Angelou

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“People are living longer than ever before, a phenomenon undoubtedly made necessary by the 30-year mortgage.” ~ Doug Larson

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“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And you are the one who’ll decide where to go.”
~ Dr. Seuss

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“What puts you on the road is your desire to enjoy. What brings you home is being in love.” ~ Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

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JUST BROWSING THE INTERNET AND FOUND A FEW  TERRIFIC QUOTES

 

“Some people create their own storms, then get upset when it rains.”
~ Mario Tomasello

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“Being upset will not solve any problem, but getting UP and SET your way to your goals will.” ~ Abhishek Tiwari

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“Emotions are one of the main things that derail communication. Once people get upset at one another, rational thinking goes out of the window.”
~ Christopher Voss

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“A person who doesn’t understand both sides of an issue can’t relate to the side he is trying to sway, so his words will bounce off of them without leaving any impression.” ~ Daniel Willey

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“Where we love is home – home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts.”
~ Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

 

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“Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.” ~ Marianne Williamson

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“The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but the thankful heart will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings.” ~ Henry Ward Beecher

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“Gratitude is a currency that we can mint for ourselves, and spend without fear of bankruptcy.” ~ Fred De Witt Van Amburgh

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“You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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“The way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement.” ~ Charles Schwab

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“Home is where love resides, memories are created, friends always belong, and laughter never ends!” ~ anonymous

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“The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home.” ~ Confucius

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“Love begins by taking care of the closest ones – the ones at home.”
~ Mother Teresa

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“He is happiest, be he king or peasant, who finds peace in his home.”
~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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“I love cats because I enjoy my home; and little by little, they become its visible soul.” ~ Jean Cocteau

 

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“The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively” — Bob Marley

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“There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle, or the mirror that reflects it.”  – Edith Wharton

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“Hate. It has caused a lot of problems in this world but has not solved one yet.” – Maya Angelou

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Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine. ― Roy T. Bennett

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Your true success in life begins only when you make the commitment to become excellent at what you do. — Brian Tracy

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“You can’t pick and choose which types of freedom you want to defend. You must defend all of it or be against all of it.” ~ Scott Howard Phillips

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“The first recipe for happiness is: avoid too lengthy meditation on the past.”
~ Andre Maurois

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“When we hide discrimination under the guise of ‘religious freedom,’ we make a mockery of human rights.” ~ DaShanne Stokes

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“Dharma is not about believing in God. It’s about making the right choices, doing the right things and leading the right life.” ~ Anurag Shourie

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“Peace is a daily, a weekly, a monthly process, gradually changing opinions, slowly eroding old barriers, quietly building new structures.” ~ John F. Kennedy

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“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” ~ Leo Tolstoy

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“Love can change a person the way a parent can change a baby- awkwardly, and often with a great deal of mess.” ~ Lemony Snicket

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“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.” ~ C. JoyBell C.

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“Each person’s task in life is to become an increasingly better person.”
~ Leo Tolstoy

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“You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~ A.A. Milne

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“I yearn not for the easy path, but for the right path.  For ‘easy’ and ‘right’ are rarely compatible.” ~ Craig D. Lounsbrough

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“Like some people, some things are like oil and frozen water.”
~ Mokokoma Mokhonoana

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“Party domination and State leadership are concepts incompatible with one another.” ~ Franz von Papen

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“Between two evils, I always pick the one I never tried before.” ~ Mae West

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“What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.” ~ Leo Tolstoy

 

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“But kids don’t stay with you if you do it right. It’s the one job where, the better you are, the more surely you won’t be needed in the long run.”
~ Barbara Kingsolver

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“Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.” ~ Charles R. Swindoll

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“A suburban mother’s role is to deliver children obstetrically once, and by car forever after.” ~ Peter De Vries

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“A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.” ~ Agatha Christie

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“Insanity is hereditary; you get it from your children.” ~ Sam Levenson

 

 

This is reposted from my blog from last Friday, 9/29/2018

What exactly is “Normal”?

I just spent some time on Facebook reading (and sometimes responding) the many discussions about Dr. Ford and Kavanaugh and his nomination to the Supreme Court. Before I go further, this is NOT a political statement and is not a condemnation of either individual — this is an observation (and some frustration) about other people’s perceptions and comments.

The facts: Christine Blasey Ford came forward with an allegation of an assault that (allegedly) happened while they were both in high school in the 1980s and was not disclosed to anyone until 2012, has never been brought to the police, and is now being highly publicized with the nomination of Brett Kavanaugh to a SCOTUS position. The White House originally refused an FBI investigation, but the house judiciary committee did finally schedule a hearing to hear both sides before any vote takes place.

On Thursday of this past week millions of viewers were glued to the television set watching as Dr. Ford recounted her story and answered numerous, sometimes rough, questions; then Brett Kavanaugh testified, denying all allegations that have been made against him. It was an emotional day for viewers as well as the people involved; many viewers decided not to watch fearing that it would be too “triggering”, indeed RAINN reported calls from sexual abuse victims nearly doubled after the televised event. (After the hearing it was decided to have an FBI investigation “of limited scope and lasting no longer than one week” before voting on Kavanaugh’s nomination.)

The Facebook debate that riled me most was one where a woman stated her doubt about Dr. Ford’s validity because she wasn’t “the normal shrinking flower” after such an assault. She also added unequivocally that IF the assault actually took place the length of time that it took to be reported at all made Ford (and other victims who delay) GUILTY of every assault that took place after!

So how exactly should a woman (or man) react after being sexually assaulted? What is the NORMAL SHRINKING FLOWER (a derogatory term in itself) like? When I wrote my book Bartlett’s Rule about a rape survivor and the man who fell in love with her I gathered (anonymous) info from several survivors, not one of them reacted the same way as another. There were some who said they didn’t report the incident because: some were filled with undue shame and guilt; some worried they might not be believed; and some were made to believe they “asked” for what had happened”. Some who did call the police did not feel that they had reached a sympathetic ear or were terrified when told they would have to testify in front of strangers and their assailant. Many chose not to say anything for years and then only opened up to a few who they felt should know. So which way was NORMAL?

Some victims can’t talk about an assault at all. Some try to deny it ever happened, they have to find a way to accept it was real and then TRY to find a way to move on. Sometimes moving on means not wanting to relive it because isn’t that what a victim does when questioned by police, hospital personnel or an opposing lawyer? Maybe, MAYBE, if the perpetrator is prosecuted and jailed, other victims might be saved, but the original victim is being “re-assaulted” with each retelling; and what happens if the alleged perpetrator winds up free and on the street anyway? One rape victim I spoke with was told by a supposed friend that she “probably asked for it, so stop whining”, this woman was filled with self-doubt and even self-imposed-guilt for years — do not add to her suffering by blaming her for what the rapist, and only the rapist, was guilty of doing! ? Coming forward after such a personally destructive incident takes immeasurable courage and strength.

This particular poster also cited The Innocence Project multiple times, I don’t know what her experiences might have been with this very worthwhile group, she herself wasn’t that forthcoming. No one can deny that sometimes the wrong people do go to jail. It is my personal assumption that most of those wrongly convicted were not deliberate, vengeful attacks, but rather innocent and tragic mis-identifications, or questionable evidence. Most crimes are only obvious to the people immediately involved (and a Higher Power if you believe) and no matter how convincing later testimony may be, the only way to POSSIBLY learn the truth is with a thorough investigation and open minds.

Hopefully the FBI investigation, limited in time and scope, of Dr. Ford’s accusations and Brett Kavanaugh’s denials will allow the truth to surface and perhaps justice will be done.

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